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I have recently been reading scientific  report on the expected outcomes of standard  medial treatment for illnesses. The article highlights the effects that a positive approach to the illness from the patient, i.e.’ I will get better’ actually makes a difference to the persons recovery…!!

Well I never….most of us working the field of energy healing and EFT(Emotional Freedom Techniques) are already aware of this.

A short quote from the report says… In fact, some research suggests that how a person views his illness may play a bigger role in determining his health outcomes than the actual severity of his disease.

In general, our illness perceptions emerge out of our beliefs about illness and what illness means in the context of our lives. So, we might have beliefs about how an illness is caused, how long it will last, how it will impact us or our family members, and how we can control or cure it. The bottom line, says Petrie, is that “patients’ perceptions of their illness guide their decisions about health.” If, for example, we feel like a prescribed treatment isn’t making us feel better we might stop that treatment.

There is a lot to be said about positive thinking and just by acknowledging that your illness can be healed seems to work wonders;  this is now being scientifically investigated! Well it’s a good start, rather like other things that we know but have only recently been accepted by the medical professions and scientific community.

I could mention for instance,  particles that are only active when looked at and change with the scientists thoughts. So its our perceptions of how life is, that maybe we should look at. EFT helps focus on what it you truly want, so if you want wellness that tapping will reinforce that.

Shakespeare was right…..”There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”

Read the article  here

Diane Holliday

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“Then she said…!!!”…  “ Oh no, I don’t believe it, the silly woman!”

How do you feel about that?  You get snippets of conversations which may or may not be about you. If you are paranoid you may consider that every bit of tittle-tattle is all about you, or maybe you are the main perpetrator. If you are neither of these, do you get involved and carry the conversation onward or choose to stop it or at least, not take part?

As an experienced mediator, helping people through family, personal and business conflicts, I find the most damage is created  by the “he said/she said” bits of conversations. The words said are not considered, some times meant to hurt or spread ‘not quite accurate’ information and can be the beginning of conflict or the fire that keeps it going.

The trouble is that words injure, and sometimes terminally. When I was a child there was a well know saying that my Mother would say to me when I was bullied at school.

‘Sticks and stones my break my bones but words can never hurt me’. How wrong this is;  words nice or offensive, can stay in the memory and  hurtful ones can cause untold misery.

By using EFT(Emotional Freedom Techniques) we can locate the pain caused by conflict and turn round  and release the negative feelings, so freeing ourselves from years of pain. Internalised  emotional pain creates illness, so to be healthy we need to unburden ourselves of this anguish.

Live a lighter life, no burdens , no conflicts, only a high vibration and heaps of happiness.

Contact me to get your life free of conflict and open up to the possibilities that are out there!

 Diane – happiness is catching

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On the news today we hear about the intense cold in eastern Europe, and I for one am very grateful that minus two degrees is all I have to cope with right now.

It does jolt the mind the realise that the  -30^o  happening  abroad is cold enough to bring about death. Admittedly most of the people who have and are still dying, are apparently vagrants, I would prefer to call them homeless, but never the less they are unable to find warmth, so will die.

It’s a bit like the parable of the Good Samaritan, do we make the effort to help, or do we just heave a sigh and be glad it’s not us, passing by on the other side of the road?

Would you ask a stranger in from the street, to share whatever you have, food and warmth even if the only bed is the floor? Or would you think they may steal from you or hurt you physically?

It is a real dilemma, I have never been confronted with this possibility so have no idea how I would react. I know how I would LIKE to react; with a genuine welcome, being happy to share what I have.

Have a think about this next time you see a homeless person, maybe begging for the price of a cup of tea.  Do you protect what you have worked so hard to obtain or to give what you can, even if it’s tough!

This I hardly asking the person to share your home on cold night but I am sure that every giving gesture, however small, increases your happiness and therefore your vibration, not to mention the happiness of the recipient.

When you need help to feel happy and raise your vibration, get tapping or call me to get some personal mentoring though this tough old life!

Diane , happiness is catching!

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Did you have a good time over the Christmas and new year parties, did you find yourself a new love?

It seems that often a new acquaintance can seem very romantic seen through a haze of alcohol and the camaraderie of parties and friends. Then in the cold light of day, when sober again and back to work, the romance may be less than perfect and living with the consequences starts.

So many people can be seduced into a new life with a new partner when really the new year is a time to take stock of what you already have and where you are in your own life, before getting into a relationship that may not be ideal.

Jenny called me  a week or so into January, asking to come and see me over a relationship issue that had all the marks of the scenario set out above.  Her new man was charming, considerate, good-looking and not a church mouse on the money front….what was not to like? But as it transpired he was becoming a bit obsessive and Jenny found this a bit scary.

Jenny admitted that she had rather let her guard down at the same time as her hair, and had told him things about herself that would have been better said at a much later stage in the relationship. The man, we shall call Gordon for this purpose, had latched onto something about Jenny and though there was a mutual attraction is seemed that Gordon had focused on her sexually rather than anything else. Jenny is not repressed in that area, maybe the bit she could have held back,  but would have much preferred to have friendship at the top of her list.

Gordon was constantly calling her mobile and engineering time alone for sex and then leaving her and getting on with his life. Jenny was feeling used, well she would in those circumstances, even though she enjoyed her time with Gordon. This was a pattern that Jenny had repeated many times before, but she really wanted this one to be different.

So what to do to re-address this issue? Well there was no way to change what happened,  but by using some of my methods and techniques we refined in our sessions, things can be changed for the better.

Well apparently my methods worked a treat for Jenny and Gordon and they are still in a close and loving relationship but with much less emphasis on sex and much more being together in friendship and love. Even looking forward to Valentines Day and another party…!!

Talk to me about my methods and get your relationship, with whoever  it is, back on track.

Diane -  mentoring you through life

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So many people are in pain and not only physical pain, but emotional pain.  Physical pain can be alleviated in many cases with analgesics and even morphine but that does not address  what the underlying reason or the causes of the pain could be. This can be accepted by some as ‘fate’ or in the worst circumstances, thoughts that  it is ‘what I deserve’;  neither of these are true of course, no one has to accept pain as a punishment.

Emotional pain can also be accepted as normal but for people like me, and there are many  of us, we know that emotional pain can be looked at, examined and in most cases,  reversed.  We look at the causes and what triggered the pain at the start, even if this means going back to childhood or even earlier in some cases. This does not apply for accidents of course, this is when we really need our NHS!

One of the questions regarding pain is which came first …the emotion or the physical effect of the emotion. Emotional pain really can lead to physical pain, but sometimes it appears that physical pain arrives all by its self.

Talking to a business client the other day he mentioned that his ’back was bad again’…”It’s due to the cold weather” he told me ” it always goes like this on cold mornings”. Ten minutes later, with some tapping (EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques) and acceptance they he had programmed his body all by himself, the pain in his back had gone.

I have a neighbour who enjoys her ill-health, I am sure you will know people like her.  A shelf full of pills and potions from the doctor, of which she is really proud! She has always had an uneasy and difficult relationship with her mother, over which she harbours  anger, guilt and resentment.  It is hardly surprising that will all these negative emotions being held onto so tightly, that her physical body has noticed and is letting her know…!

If you have issues of emotional or physical pain and need to make changes in the direction your life is going,  then contact me and we can talk about how together we can change your world.

Diane Holliday……for a happy and well-directed life

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We all use tools to get us through each day; they could be keeping an appointments diary, delegating shopping or school runs or even using a slow cooker so dinner is ready when you get home.

Some of the tools we use are less wholesome;  procrastinating, lying , cheating and stealing. We all do these to some extent.  Did you ever tell someone you were late because of the traffic, when you really didn’t leave home on time, did you ever ‘borrow’ a biro and not return it? Each of these little ‘tools’ helps to get us though another day and are not so dreadful as to cause us or anyone else too much stress.

Those are some of the minor tools of living but there are, of course, some much more fundamental tools that we should acknowledge and use regularly. For instance,  do you ever consciously send out love to another human being in distress, do you listen to people with care and compassion? Where are your tools for coping with emotions, yours and others? These tools cost nothing, other than remembering to use them.

I have been thinking about the recent cruise ship accident; would I have been a screamer, would I have panicked? Would I have (instinctively or unconsciously, self-preservation is a powerful force) trampled over other people to get to safety?

Which of my tools would I have remembered to use? Well I hope I would have been able to keep myself calm with tapping (EFT-Emotional Freedom Techniques) my inner discipline (still working on this one) and some deep breathing. But would I have had the courage to help others? I don’t know, though I really hope that all the years of study and my ‘normal’ compassionate and positive outlook on life would have kicked in and enabled me to ‘be the calm place’ for others, even in such a crisis.

Which tools could you call on in an emergency, tools that don’t require ‘things’, only thoughts that are deeply implanted for your survival and the benefit of the community in which you find yourself?

If you’re not sure then contact me and lets see what my tools can teach you.

Diane – have a happy day!

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I have recently been for a routine blood test and was diagnosed with rather high cholesterol; this after so many years of studying and working with nutrition and well-being!

This had led me to question why me? As I am sure it is with many other  people.

There is so much information in the internet, much from the USA  and much of it conflicting, that I will not repeat it here, but one major factor has transpired…that apart from everything else…it could be hereditary, meaning that it’s in my genes!

The practice nurse who did my tests asked about my parents and I explained that my father had heart problems as he aged and in fact died of a heart attack. I don’t remember about his parents but they all died well into old age, so I thought they must have been healthy!  It does seem that this little bit of knowledge about my father should have been acknowledged by me at some point and my life style amended accordingly.

Like my father, I smoked for many years but have been an ex smoker for over 16 years. As a family in the post war years, when I was young,  we were all a little in love with chocolate and butter and having an addictive personality (though I was unaware of this for many years) I think maybe I just overdid it.

I have had an interest in my weight, mostly keeping it level, since my mid twenties especially after having three children. Then over the last five years, since I was about 60 really, my girth has steadily increased. I started to use a size larger in clothes and choose styles that would camouflage my tummy. What I should have done, of course, was to take action then, and not leave it until my previously excellent health was in danger.

On reflection, both my parents were overweight when elderly, my sister  also struggles with similar issues and we are both very aware that to be healthy into old age we require less fat on the body then they had.

So what went wrong then? Procrastination, lack of awareness, being too comfortable, loving my food and not loving exercise…….I could go on!

Well that has all changed;  to be fair it was the photos taken on holiday in September 2011 that gave me the trigger to take stock and DO something. So I have already lost weight, but more to go, taken up a more enjoyable exercise, Zumba to be precise, as an addition to my keep fit class and yoga, also I am making more effort to modify my diet and eat better and actually eat less.  On the two days a week that I don’t have an exercise class,  I notice that I am more sluggish; just walking the dog, however lovely it is to get fresh air, is not enough to get the endorphins going!

In short I am doing everything I can to get back to fitness, I choose not to take drugs especially ‘statins’ which are routinely prescribed for high cholesterol, as I am very aware of the side effects and don’t want to be adding chemicals to my body.

Next time I have a blood test my cholesterol will be on it’s way back to normal. Will let you know if it’s not….It’s a change of direction for me, though not much of a change and I am fortunately self motivated…if you need motivation maybe you would like to accompany me on this bit of the journey?

Let’s get well together…contact me to talk about what we can do about it.

Happy days…..Diane

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Getting to ‘know’ ones self is a long and sometimes arduous process. I have got through the self-esteem bit and seem OK with that, but deep self-knowledge is still only just coming to the fore front of my mind.

It occurs to me that we all have hidden stuff; backgrounds, people, lies and deceits, that we are too shy or  embarrassed to admit or have pushed away in the dark recesses, not ever to be touched or examined.

If you have done any EFT(Emotional Freedom Techniques) you will have come across the ‘Personal Peace Procedure ’(a workbook can be found here), this is a method of finding and then releasing past issues, tensions and events and being able to ‘let them go’…..and it works very well for most people.  Once examined, the old burdens of guilt and anxiety can be laid to rest, so life moves on with less weight on your shoulders.

As part of my 2012 set of goals and intentions, I have set out to re-examine some of my old beliefs in the hopes that this release of energy will trigger more people to see for themselves how wonderful life really is and to find their own new direction. Also how transient, how fast it passes and how to cope with the constant change that is life for everyone.

One common held belief is that you cannot change other people; this is part of the teaching that I have purported for many years.  I now realise that this is not so; you can change other people but only by example,  not by coercion.

Clients tell me that my teaching and counselling has ‘changed them’ ;  I read book written by people more knowledgeable than me and, yes it changes me. Part of these changes become the self realisation and self-knowledge that has escaped us before, or maybe, more to the point, we were not ready to hear it before.

Growing in wisdom seems to me rather a long journey, but I do believe I am getting there; part of this is the self-knowledge that I am learning by listening to my inner self, understanding by thinking and gaining awareness and confidence by teaching what I know.

If you have areas where your direction is less than clear, where your self-knowledge is falling short, then when you are ready to hear what and who you truly are, come and talk to me.

Diane Holliday

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Are you one of those people who has an opinion on everything? Everything from immigrants to when the grass needs to be cut? Well lucky you, you may not be popular with those who disagree with you, but you do know you are right, so that makes up for everything….doesn’t it?

I am one of the many people who really have no fixed opinions as we can always see the other side of every argument, we may sound rather boring as we blend into the conversations around us. We make no grand statements, have no great discussions or debates and are, overall quite bland…!

I am happy to be this way as gentle conversation has more power than being ‘right’; educating people around me, I hope to change opinion by example, by being the change that I want to see in the world.

It’s not a bad thing to have opinions but  if you find yourself constantly looking for arguments and for people to challenge then maybe it’s time to learn tolerance.

For instance it is not any of your business how immigrants get here or how long they stay, but you could show a welcome like you would for anybody, they are human beings. Grass will grow and need cutting according to the weather and how you like your grass to look…..it’s not your business how anyone else deals with their grass. When your opinion ceases to be just that and becomes a row, take a deep breath and think about the other persons point of view, even  the Bankers greed has another side….think about it.

Next time you are confronted by the possibility of an argument, turn it round. Say that you find this point of view interesting and then…..say no more.

Your opinion of yourself says more than your opinion of anything else around you. Self esteem, in a quiet way, will prove more valuable than talking  loudly about what you consider to be right. Make 2012 a turning point and change your attitudes and perceptions. Be a more gentle, less opinionated person and see how love, acceptance and forgiveness takes the place of ‘being right’, deep in your soul.

If you need to find a new directon this year contact me for some professional support.

Diane, have a happy day

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I went to my dowsing group in Slimbridge yesterday.  It was our last meeting until the  new year so there was a festive feel and we had games that tested our dowsing skills to the utmost.  Well it tested my colleagues, as I seemed unable to do anything.  I do have other responsibilities now as I have been made Treasurer (that will stop me from letting slip that I used to be an accountant), it’s all in a good cause but there is a fair bit to do at the start of the meetings.

There is an uneasy feeling about, well for me anyway and I am thinking that the full moon due on Saturday has more to do with this than usual. The moon has a pull on our energies, just as much as the tides and right now my emotional and physical energies seem to be at odds.

On one side I am happy, fulfilled and busy.  On the other side the ‘busyness’ is  physically tiring and on the run up to Christmas there seem to be less time in a day than usual!

I have taken to using my tapping as an energy balancer….just a round or two of tapping will calm and support me and along with some good long, deep breaths and I am ready to go again.

Around the new and full moon phases, many people feel at odds with life and become unsettled ; normal life seems to change or is disturbed.  Even if you have never read about the changes that are happening  in the world right now, get yourself  aware of the moon. Stand and look (assuming there are no clouds) just know that you are part of the energy that holds us all on this planet.

If you can dowse, ask some questions about your future for instance ”Is my current work right for me?” If you think you can’t dowse this is good time to try again or learn how to; it’s another link to your intuition and inner consciousness.  Many of the EFT(Emotional Freedom Techniques) Masters use dowsing as another tool,  so get dowsing this or any full moon. You could try a round of tapping first, just to get yourself  grounded…then off you go.  When you ‘get it’, it can be amazing!

Contact me if you need help…!

Diane Holliday